The obvious things are not the beauty of "make believe".
The ''Big'' life is not being a smart / intelligent (delete as appropriate) enough to learn to live as send the rules. It is to be fearless, bold enough to go against the tide and think for themselves. For you, inside. Running the risk of being authentic, under penalty of misunderstood!
Because, as I was made known recently, there is always someone who understands us, even when we are dangerously natural!